Failed Terribly...

I drive A out of my life by asking him to change job. I drive B crazy by keep asking him to get a job. I drive C sad and disappointed by asking him to change job. Why? I wonder how many people in my life will be drove away by me. I know that giving people the option to make their own decision and choose their own life will definitely be the right way. I can only be a 'advisor' and not 'changer'. I know what I do is wrong but I just cant help seeing no future in them. Just because I TOT I really been thru alot? Or simply I like people to follow my way? I feel sad by people dun understand my point. Somehow I think, if this person follows my way and failed, who can this person blame? Sigh, I guess by then I got another piece of mind to tell this person. OMG...this shouldnt be the way to lead life. Sooner or later, I will run out of friends...sigh
Am I really a 'good' advisor to people? Somehow I feel that I cant even handle my life well let alone others. Why do I want to kapo so much on other people's life? Or is it because I see no future in them if they remain like tat?
Sigh, people marry, I marry, people marry happy, I marry happy, people doing family planning, I doing career planning,...I envy people who started planning for family but whatever I planned always turn otherwise. So should I stop planning and let everything goes by nature? I dunwan to be like tis forever but I am aware that I will have to be hardworking in order to get the kind of life I want. I know that I do not need to depend on other people to survive but I tends to get lonely easily.
So, what are the choices in life for me now? To built my career in banking, to get a bachelor degree in any field, to buy my first Condo for my parents, to tour Europe for 2 weeks, to get my debts cleared in 4 years time, to save enough to support my own, ...
I noe that if I maintain my momentum like what I am doing now, am sure will be able to accomplish at least 1 or 2 of the above.
Sigh, Sigh, Sigh...need to study for my Econs and Accounting le. :(